The longer I am in life, the more I think that many men don’t learn to be good fathers. They learn just enough to solve the problems they face and get rid of the problem at hand, and that’s it. You’d think that after 10 years they’d be masters in the art of parenting. Nope. What they really know could be taught in a day, and most of what they think they know is not even true. It’s just regurgitated nonsense they got from their parents, who also never took the time to study the subject.
I get it. You need to get work done. When things seem to be OK, you don’t want to increase your stress or workload. You have a job, your children have nowhere else to go, and you don’t see the need to teach them about love, empathy, conflict resolution, health, and awareness. It’s human, and it’s how most people approach parenthood.
Do you want to be the person that appears as a joke on Twitter, The Daily WTF, or a blog because you don’t know how to build your child’s self-esteem and make them happy, healthy, responsible, productive contributors to society? Do you want to be the character that other people laugh about?
Or do you want to be the person who does the job right and will look back with contentment after they have left your house? If so, make an effort to regularly and continuously improve your skills. Even if you are strong in some areas, practice those skills and build others.
Please feel free to pass this along. I’d like to see most fathers as craftsman, not factory workers.
Homework: Write something like this on cooking, gardening, cleaning, home improvement, or any other subject that requires skills. And then realize how silly it is. Enjoy!