I don’t believe many of the people discussing in-person events are selfish (or dumb as the word used by another post).
I think they legit want to know if it’s possible to do it safely in 2021. We all miss seeing people in person and share that feeling. Because of this, the reasons for exploring in person events are more about friendship and compassion than selfishness.
That being said, being an organizer puts many of us in the precarious position of actually having to plan a successful event. None of the organizers here (or that I have spoken to) see any reasonable way to do that.
This is not a bad discussion to have and it’s important to separate all of the political vitriol over Covid in the past year from people learning and trying to do good things here.
For context: many people are working in offices and taking part in in-person activities. Mitigating risk in an office or some other highly structured environment is easier than for a conference, which contains a thousand unknowns that we can’t realize ahead of time.
I suspect we will have this discussion again over the summer, at which time things will have changed enough that we can more legitimately plan in-person or hybrid events. We’re not there yet, but I am sure we will all be happier when we are.