I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.
Today’s tip is to focus on being kind rather than right.
There’s a tendency to be right, correct, to do what’s best. That might be true for many people and situations, but it’s certainly something I see technical people doing a lot, sometimes (over) arguing or pushing some point without regard to others’ feelings and the impact you have.
I appreciate that sometimes the architecture, the code, the approach really matters. It impacts how our systems work, the costs or our company, and more. However, I also think that we can often debate and discuss in a kinder way.
I’ve been working on trying to move SQL Saturday and events forward in many ways. At Redgate, with partners, with people in the community. I think I’m right to preserve and push the brand, but I recognize that I need to do so positively and not push/press/say I’m right here. I need to be kind and positive.