Don’t let someone else’s urgency becomes your emergency. In fact, don’t be governed by the urgent of any sort. Focus on the important. The urgent is a tyrant. – from Excellent Advice for Living
I try to set my life up to be fairly relaxed. A little chaotically busy, but relaxed. I try to stay ahead of work, plan things, get them prepped, and beat my milestones, at work or at home.
However.
As some people might say, life happens. Others might use a different 4 letter word, but I’ve liked life. As John Lennon says: Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.
I do try to help others and accommodate them, but another’s emergency isn’t mine. I am here for support, and to listen, but encroaching on my wallet or my time is something I have to choose to give you. Sometimes I might, but sometimes I might not. Ultimately. I don’t want to get jerked around by others, at work or in life.
I try to remember what’s important, which might not be someone else’s thing. This might mean previous plans take precedence. Or it might mean that I decide to help with your emergency. The important thing is the important thing.
I’ve been posting New Words on Fridays from a book I was reading, however, a friend thought they were a little depressing. They should be as they are obscure sorrows. I like them because they make me think.
To counter-balance those, I’m adding in thoughts on advice, mostly from Kevin Kelley’s book. You can read all these posts under the advice tag.