Being Professional

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  • "It's not my world; it's not your world. It's our world."

    Steve, you opened a can of worms with this one today.  Admittedly, I'm a 'grumpy old man', turning 78 next month, but here's my take on the disrespectful thing.

    Disrespectful?  Get over it.  In my experience, disrespect is far more often perceived than intended.

    Reminds me of the old cartoon that bears the captions:

    Father:  "What do you say when you want something?"

    Son:       "I'm offended"

    In my day, nobody owed me respect.  I had to earn it.  If you want my respect, look in the mirror first. Granted there are some basic rules regarding this, but generally we spend far to much time on what we have a 'right' to and too little on what we have a responsibility for.

    You may not be able to control every situation in life, but you can control how you respond.


    One of the best days of my IT career was they day I told my boss if the problem was so simple he should go fix it himself.

  • Good article, Steve. I especially like that last line, "It's not my world; it's not your world. It's our world". I think people have lost sight of that, at least at times. I've lost sight of that, at times. I apologize for when I did.

    Kindest Regards, Rod Connect with me on LinkedIn.

  • I remember an earlier post by Randolph West (they/them) which was about personal pronouns. So should it not be "I saw some thoughts from Randolph West recently that caught my eye.  They talk about treating others as you'd like to be treated",  which feels quite awkward to someone who has a different first language than English. If not, then when should the they/them be used?

    The article itself is clear.

    Confused Dutchie

    Dutch Anti-RBAR League

  • Most people are happy with he/she being used, according to their personal preference. However, there are starting to be people that are uncomfortable with those forms of address and may ask for they/them instead. If someone let's you know, or some writing from the individual contains pronouns, use them.

    For example, I might say for my daughter, "she wrote a nice post recently." I would use this address when talking to someone, whether she is around or not. I could also say, "Tina wrote a nice post recently."

    I have a friend in my company that prefers they/them, so I'd say "Tina wrote a nice post" or "They wrote a nice post". In English they typically is a plural, but some people find it to be a neutral form of address, so I use it.

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