“Don’t aim to have others like you; aim to have them respect you.” – from Excellent Advice for Living
This is an interesting piece of advice. It’s easy to look at this and think, no, that’s not what I want, but remember that these two things are not mutually exclusive. People can respect and like you. However, for many things in life, you really want respect more than link.
When I coach, respect is more important. At work, respect is more important. In relationships, they’re probably equal.
Respect means that people listen to you, treat you well, give weight and consideration to your words, actions, and feelings.
I like some people, but don’t respect them. I might enjoy spending time with them, but our relationship is more for leisure and fun. We don’t really have anything of significance between us. We can just enjoy time.
Your goal is respect.
I’ve been posting New Words on Fridays from a book I was reading, however, a friend thought they were a little depressing. They should be as they are obscure sorrows. I like them because they make me think.
To counter-balance those, I’m adding in thoughts on advice, mostly from Kevin Kelley’s book. You can read all these posts under the advice tag.