It's a bit harsh to say that if you're not supported at home then it's your own fault, however it's true that people of either gender have home issues that will affect their whole lives (including work). Unfortunately lack of self esteem occurs too often in women leading them to accept the situation more frequently.

Like you I am frequently the only women in a group - unless we have someone in to take minutes and people do remember your name - often good but not always. I don't use hormones as an excuse but I may take them into account when scheduling things in the same way as I know men who will take heavy social weekends into account - you know if you will be run down that day and plan accordingly. It doesn't mean you have to advertise the fact or make a song and dance about it.

We should act differently though because people are different, it's a big assumption to make that all men are or act the same and if women have tendancies to look at things in an alternate way then that's all good for the mix. This is not an excuse however for lazyness, I've experienced men who spend nearly all their working time discussing eBay and women who do the same with shoes and I regard both the same. Act professionally however you do it and in the right environment it will be noticed, in the wrong one get out.