First of all congratulations to everyone, when I see this type of article I normally cringe, expecting a bun fight, but this one has not descended into name calling and stone throwing. so perhaps working relationships are improving out there.

Having said that...........

a lot of posts talk about devs and dba working on the same team, whether that is possible will depend on the size of the organisation, the larger it is the more likely skills will be siloed and the DBAs more focused on production support than say code reviews. I understand why devs would love to have a DBA dedicated to their project but in a large organisation where a small team of DBAs support a large number of applications in production that is difficult, so this needs to be taken into account.

In terms of working together just be professional and sensible. I have only ever had problems with people who would have been awkward whatever the situation as its in their nature, and those are the only people who have ever had a problem with me.