Joe,

I don't think most of us are saying that at all. People tend to confuse statements like "No, you cannot do that on the database.." as being uncooperative and not having people skills, and they are two different things. This is not Burger King, you cannot get it your way all the time. That is a part of being a DBA. We have to enforce rules and perimeters. It's part of our job, whether people like it or not, and usually they don't . However, as a result of this, people tend to confuse not getting their way alot with the other person not having "people skills". 😀