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Posted Friday, June 6, 2008 8:44 AM


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My oldest IS going to college this fall. I can't believe how fast the time has gone by. When she was born, I decided that I had to have a balance between work and spending time with my family, and I did as much as possible. Sometimes my boss wasn't happy (he's childless..) but he rarely prevented my time off or criticized my reasons for not working 80 hours a week. When I needed to be there, he knew I would be there. Management needs to understand the importance of balance as burnout can be right around the corner. Cranky people make lousy employees. Whether it's time with family or simply a little alone time, if we don't make the time, what good is all the money we are earning? Stress, heart attacks, whatever? What have we truly gained, material things? Give me a day to myself and my family anytime, it keeps me sane, well most of the time anyway! (teenagers, you've got to love them!). As Steve said "Stop, Smell, Smile" - to that I'd add "and Live".

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Posted Friday, June 6, 2008 9:08 AM
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We hear the words often that we should:

1. Do what you have a passion for
2. Live well, work hard, play harder.
3. Enjoy life now while you are young
4. Enjoy your family while you can.
5. Take the dream vacation before you are not able to do it.
6. Play now and then play later.

We hear this far more often then we realize. Could that be because so many have waited so long that they can not now live the dream? Do it now, and if it does not work out try something else, but do not give up the dream.

I started one career and change and then changed again. I have no regrets about it at all. I could have retired earlier if I had stayed in the first career, but it might have killed me long ago as well.

I have always felt that if it is legal, ethical moral, profitable, and you would love doing it then let it rip!!!!!

Take a risk! It is well worth it...

Miles...


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Posted Friday, June 6, 2008 9:12 AM


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And just a friendly reminder....Don't try the "stop, smell, smile" trick in your data center. Most of them have some seriously FUNKY smells - whatever smile comes out of that will likely be you desperately trying to hold onto your lunch....:)

Works well outside though!!!!


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Posted Friday, June 6, 2008 1:12 PM


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By far the BEST editorial or thought on this and any other site.
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Posted Friday, June 6, 2008 4:33 PM
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It's kind of funny. My best friend (she was best man at my wedding, my wife and I just celebrated our third anniversary Wednesday) frequently told me that no one, on their death bed, said "I should have worked harder". I quite a job that, afterwards, my friends said "you haven't been happy there for a long time", I just didn't realize it until after I left. SO WHY THE HECK DIDN'T THEY TELL ME THAT BEFORE I QUIT?

The sad thing is that my best friend is now so mired in debt that she's working 2-3 different jobs to stay afloat, but there are complicating factors that add to that. She desperately needs to play more, but she can't afford to. I find that tragically sad.

As for me, I can't say that I'm tremendously happy at my job for a variety of reasons, but at least I recognize it and recognizing it helps to keep some balance. Having a wife that I love and that loves me helps a lot.

But definitely enjoy your friends and family while you have them, because they won't be there forever. I've lost too many of them over the last few years, you can never appreciate them enough.


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Posted Wednesday, June 18, 2008 8:57 AM


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My oldest IS going to college this fall. I can't believe how fast the time has gone by. When she was born, I decided that I had to have a balance between work and spending time with my family, and I did as much as possible. Sometimes my boss wasn't happy (he's childless..) but he rarely prevented my time off or criticized my reasons for not working 80 hours a week. When I needed to be there, he knew I would be there. Management needs to understand the importance of balance as burnout can be right around the corner. Cranky people make lousy employees. Whether it's time with family or simply a little alone time, if we don't make the time, what good is all the money we are earning? Stress, heart attacks, whatever? What have we truly gained, material things? Give me a day to myself and my family anytime, it keeps me sane, well most of the time anyway! (teenagers, you've got to love them!). As Steve said "Stop, Smell, Smile" - to that I'd add "and Live".
Very well said. My brother can relate to your situation with your boss. His boss doesn't have any children and her philosophy is work is your family. I hope I never have to work for someone like that. Even though I don't have any kids (unless you count pets), I still treasure the time I spend away from work with my wife and other family. In April, my wife and I were able to go to Colorado for my grandmother's 100th birthday. We had a great time, as did she. About a month later, she passed away, so we were glad to see her when we did.

My family is the most important thing to me and I will do anything to keep that my main reason for living (even if it means moving, changing professions, etc.). When I was in the US Air Force, one of their core values was "Service Before Self." Fortunately, everyone I worked for realized the job is important, but if you aren't happy due to working too much or neglecting your personal life, overall the work will suffer.


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If I was always on vacation I would smile a lot too! Seriously though, always remember, as was said above, that very few people have ever said on their deathbed, "You know, I wish I had spent more time at the office." You have to keep things in life in proper perspective at all times. As far as family being everything to your existence, well...that kind of depends. Marty Nemko wrote a great article on this for another perspective on family.

http://martynemko.blogspot.com/2008/09/family-is-overrated.html


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Posted Friday, March 22, 2013 5:20 PM
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How appropriate that this editorial is running (almost five years after being written) while Steve is on vacation.

This is a message that has an indefinite shelf-life.

Thanks Steve and I hope you are enjoying a good vacation.
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