Okay, I have stopped the services
I edited the Advanced properties with a prefix of -m
I restarted the services
I went to the command prompt and it didn't work. 1 when trying to login it tells me only 1 admin can be loggedin at a time if I just try the commands in the prompt it fails on not recognized commands
If I stop the service and try to access it from the command -m is unrecognizable and if I just try to log in I get SQL server is not found or not accessible
also DAC is not enabled