whether from profiler or from XE, interpreting a deadlock graph seemed to be the question. That link should help in interpreting a deadlock graph.

Here is a link about extracting the deadlock graph from XE

http://blogs.technet.com/b/sqlpfeil/archive/2013/05/27/did-you-know-dead-locks-can-be-track-from-the-system-health-in-sql-2012.aspx