Hi Todd - thanks for the tip!
I was able to get the startup parameters in an also connect without any issues...
I got this to work by using these steps exactly:
1)From Cluster Administrator: stop
the cluster service for the failover node
2)From Cluster Administrator: take the SQL Server resource offline
3)From SQL Server Configuration Manager: add the startup parameters -c;-m;-T3608
4)From Cluster Administraror: bring the SQL Server resource online again
This was the same as what is listed above except pausing
the node didn't work...I had to completely stop
the failover node...now I feel like kicking myself!