It is all about 'balance' in one's life. I have been way 'out of balance' at times in the past (15-20 years ago). Sometimes by choice sometimes not. Now I find that a cool head and sound thinking eliminates most 'out of balance' conditions. There are two other factors that also help one regain balance. They are being comfortable with oneself and not living in fear. These things kind of go hand in hand. If you are comfortable with yourself, by this I mean who you are, what you do, how you live then fear does not even attempt to run your life. You say fear, hah ! Let me explain this thing fear just a slight bit as it relates to comfort. If I am comfortable with myself, and the facets mentioned above, I am not afraid of what others think in either my personal or professional life. I can then live my life as opposed to exist in someone else's.
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"Ave Caesar! - Morituri te salutamus."