thank you, i will definetely try all your advise, i do have the

DBCC TRACEON (3604)

DBCC TRACEON (1204)

but i do not see any deadlocks in the sql log , by doing some reasearch i read that it would be good to change my remote query timeout configuration from :(this is what i currently have)

remote query timeout (s)02147483647600600

to:

sp_configure 'remote query timeout', 0

reconfigure

would this help?