I'm not clear on it. So far you've given us your control table. If you could give us that but instead as DDL and consumable sample data, it would be a start. Example:

DECLARE @control TABLE

(

TableName VARCHAR(20)

,ColumnName VARCHAR(20)

,ColumnValue VARCHAR(100)

,IncludeExclude VARCHAR(10)

);

INSERT INTO @control

SELECT 'tblProduct','ProductID','1','Exclude'

UNION ALL SELECT 'tblProduct','ProductID','2','Exclude'

UNION ALL SELECT 'tblProduct','ProductName','Keyboard','Include'

UNION ALL SELECT 'tblProduct','ProductName','Mouse','Include'

UNION ALL SELECT 'tblOrder','OrderID','1','Exclude'

UNION ALL SELECT 'tblOrder','OrderID','2','Exclude'

UNION ALL SELECT 'tblOrder','OrderName','PackageA','Exclude'

UNION ALL SELECT 'tblOrder','OrderName','PackageB','Exclude'

SELECT * FROM @control

Now you also should provide the DDL for tbProducts and tbOrders, along with some consumable sample data.

Finally, we need to see what your expected results are.

You probably don't need a CURSOR. You may need Dynamic SQL although that's not for certain.