Those were two quick samples. There are tons relating to this issue, but I hear what your saying about not knowing how to ask a question when you don't know what you're up against. Not you, but sometimes people post a waffling narrative and wrap up their post with "any help is appreciated". Questions like that get edited by the moderators on SO, or categorically thrown out, whereas here they spark very diverse responses from folks looking at the problem through their own lens of experience. That's how problems get solved and people learn how to ask better questions.

A friend recently said to me that everyone has different perspectives on problems and how they approach solving those problems, and it is the vast array of experiences that we bring to a question.

When the response from the poster becomes "I don't need that information just focus on the question I asked" when in reality that's what was being done, we all lose something.