Please don’t Tweet this, but…

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    Brad M. McGehee
    DBA

  • Brad, I don't know if I've been perfect about this, but my view is that conversations are private unless you ask permission to share. That said, there are times when I think its ok to say "I had lunch with a friend who mentioned...some none personal thing". Even in cases where there will be public minutes (PASS Board meetings for example) it's wise to exercise caution about direct quotes.

    I do say "please don't blog this" when I talk about some topics, because while I'm often willing to be candid about a topic person to person, if that message is to be shared I would want to manage it and not have someone else write it. There's always a chance someone will ignore this and hurt me, but I think taking that chance is preferable to filtering every sentence as if it was being recorded for playback.

    Great topic.

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    So what should we do now that we live in the new world of social media?

    My answer would be... act like adults. 😉

    --Jeff Moden


    RBAR is pronounced "ree-bar" and is a "Modenism" for Row-By-Agonizing-Row.
    First step towards the paradigm shift of writing Set Based code:
    ________Stop thinking about what you want to do to a ROW... think, instead, of what you want to do to a COLUMN.

    Change is inevitable... Change for the better is not.


    Helpful Links:
    How to post code problems
    How to Post Performance Problems
    Create a Tally Function (fnTally)

  • Be careful and act like adults.

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  • My thought is, even if you say "please don't" that doesn't mean the person you are speaking to will act accordingly. However, regardless of what media outlet is available, people still have to remember the maxim, don't believe everything you hear/read. Just because someone tweets about how you told them you think a certain manager is lazy, it's hearsay, so I don't see how it is at all possible that you could lose your job over it. I would think the tweeter would be more at risk. In this hypothetical scenario, I would simply deny ever having said anything of the sort to that person, putting that person on the spot, not me. So my advice to anyone potentially divulging something someone told you, unless you have proof, you're the one at risk of losing your reputation/job.

  • I think that Andy has it right, you ought to keep things private conversations private unless you ask permission. I have emailed a lot of people about things before I've written them in editorials.

    However I think that if you're talking in public, in a group, you are essentially sharing information there. If 7 of us are in a hallway and others walk by and you say things, those are not things I would consider to be held in confidence.

    Just as I'd differentiate an email conversation between a few people as being private and posting on a forum like this as public.

  • Being possibly the only person in the universe that doesn't have a twitter account, a facebook page, a myspace page or anything else like that (other than a linkedin page), I had actually not thought about this at all. Its a bit of a scary thought to realise that you could be outside the office having a coffee (and a smoke for those who still do) with a workmate, and before you get back to the office, a short account of that conversation could be twitting its way around the universe!

  • Great topic Brad! Funny because there are often times in the office where Scott (Gleason) will say something then immediately turns to me and says "don't tweet that", as he knows how active I am in the social media space. Not saying that I go around tweeting/blogging everything I hear or discuss with folks but it's interesting that it's becoming a more prevalent issue. Hopefully more folks will realize the power of social media (e.g. the #sqlhelp tag on Twitter) and how beneficial it can be rather than focusing on the negative side.

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  • I'm another one who doesn't do twittering, facebooking, myspace or being linkedin etc. so you're not alone Niall.

    The problem hasn't changed though, there has always been the one rule - don't tell something that you wish to remain confidential. It just takes less time for someone to pass it on to others.

  • It all depends on who you trust. Some people I've worked with I wouldn't trust an inch, whereas others are people that I can really trust .

  • There's a Chinese proverb I've always liked for my own self-censorship:

    "You want no one to know it?... Then don't do it."

  • niall.baird (9/5/2010)


    Being possibly the only person in the universe that doesn't have a twitter account, a facebook page, a myspace page or anything else like that (other than a linkedin page), I had actually not thought about this at all.

    Nah... you're not alone there although I'm always conscious of those things and the impact they can have.

    --Jeff Moden


    RBAR is pronounced "ree-bar" and is a "Modenism" for Row-By-Agonizing-Row.
    First step towards the paradigm shift of writing Set Based code:
    ________Stop thinking about what you want to do to a ROW... think, instead, of what you want to do to a COLUMN.

    Change is inevitable... Change for the better is not.


    Helpful Links:
    How to post code problems
    How to Post Performance Problems
    Create a Tally Function (fnTally)

  • niall.baird (9/5/2010)


    Being possibly the only person in the universe that doesn't have a twitter account, a facebook page, a myspace page or anything else like that (other than a linkedin page)

    You are definitely not alone ...

    Wayne
    Microsoft Certified Master: SQL Server 2008
    Author - SQL Server T-SQL Recipes


    If you can't explain to another person how the code that you're copying from the internet works, then DON'T USE IT on a production system! After all, you will be the one supporting it!
    Links:
    For better assistance in answering your questions
    Performance Problems
    Common date/time routines
    Understanding and Using APPLY Part 1 & Part 2

  • Without trying to derail the editorial, I really did think my wife and I were pretty much alone in the non-facebook (etc) world. Family and friends are always telling us that we "need" to get onto Facebook, but I really don't see the point. After spending 8-10 hours per day on the computer, coding my little heart out, I just don't want to spend the extra time updating everyone on what I had for lunch and what time I went to the toilet!!!! 🙂

    Seriously, facebookers, your lives are not that interesting.:rolleyes:

  • That's not why I don't get on those sites. I'm one of those folks that are absolutely paranoid about protecting my personal identity... and all of those social networking sites are not exactly on the up-and-up in protecting my identity, so I don't go to them.

    Wayne
    Microsoft Certified Master: SQL Server 2008
    Author - SQL Server T-SQL Recipes


    If you can't explain to another person how the code that you're copying from the internet works, then DON'T USE IT on a production system! After all, you will be the one supporting it!
    Links:
    For better assistance in answering your questions
    Performance Problems
    Common date/time routines
    Understanding and Using APPLY Part 1 & Part 2

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