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Posted Thursday, June 20, 2013 10:42 AM
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Brandie Tarvin (6/20/2013)
I need some advice, please.

One of my thread questions has a poster on it who spent all day yesterday on Twitter telling me my problem is impossible (literally, he said that). He refuses to believe I have a problem because he can't reproduce it and I can't exactly let him see my systems.

So he found the thread I posted here and has been contributing, or trying to contribute, without actually helping. I managed to ignore his first post, but his second post made an absolute judgement on something that he can't possible know is 100% true for everyone. So I posted a brief rebuttal and now he's responded.

The problem is if I read his response, I might do an angry rant kind of post and turn into one of Those OPs, which I'm trying not to do. On the other hand, if I ignore a thread I started, I might never see the other responses which might actually be helpful.

How should I handle this? I don't want a guy who doesn't even believe I have an issue trying to "help me" resolve it by telling me I don't have an issue.


Can you not just skip any of his replies? That's what I try to do in similar situations, but I know it isn't easy.


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Brandie Tarvin (6/20/2013)
I need some advice, please.

One of my thread questions has a poster on it who spent all day yesterday on Twitter telling me my problem is impossible (literally, he said that). He refuses to believe I have a problem because he can't reproduce it and I can't exactly let him see my systems.

So he found the thread I posted here and has been contributing, or trying to contribute, without actually helping. I managed to ignore his first post, but his second post made an absolute judgement on something that he can't possible know is 100% true for everyone. So I posted a brief rebuttal and now he's responded.

The problem is if I read his response, I might do an angry rant kind of post and turn into one of Those OPs, which I'm trying not to do. On the other hand, if I ignore a thread I started, I might never see the other responses which might actually be helpful.

How should I handle this? I don't want a guy who doesn't even believe I have an issue trying to "help me" resolve it by telling me I don't have an issue.


Can you not just skip any of his replies? That's what I try to do in similar situations, but I know it isn't easy.


I suppose the easiest thing to do is delete the notification of his response and wait until the next notification comes before I revisit the thread.

Unfortunately my frustration with him has leaked out onto the other people who actually are trying to help out. Which is Not Good and for which I apologize.

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Brandie Tarvin (6/20/2013)
[quote]. . . I suppose the easiest thing to do is delete the notification of his response and wait until the next notification comes before I revisit the thread.

Unfortunately my frustration with him has leaked out onto the other people who actually are trying to help out. Which is Not Good and for which I apologize.

That's life, Brandie. I think there is no need to apologize.
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Brandie Tarvin (6/20/2013)
I need some advice, please.

One of my thread questions has a poster on it who spent all day yesterday on Twitter telling me my problem is impossible (literally, he said that). He refuses to believe I have a problem because he can't reproduce it and I can't exactly let him see my systems.

So he found the thread I posted here and has been contributing, or trying to contribute, without actually helping. I managed to ignore his first post, but his second post made an absolute judgement on something that he can't possible know is 100% true for everyone. So I posted a brief rebuttal and now he's responded.

The problem is if I read his response, I might do an angry rant kind of post and turn into one of Those OPs, which I'm trying not to do. On the other hand, if I ignore a thread I started, I might never see the other responses which might actually be helpful.

How should I handle this? I don't want a guy who doesn't even believe I have an issue trying to "help me" resolve it by telling me I don't have an issue.


Link please, we can read it for you ;)




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I need some advice, please.

One of my thread questions has a poster on it who spent all day yesterday on Twitter telling me my problem is impossible (literally, he said that). He refuses to believe I have a problem because he can't reproduce it and I can't exactly let him see my systems.

So he found the thread I posted here and has been contributing, or trying to contribute, without actually helping. I managed to ignore his first post, but his second post made an absolute judgement on something that he can't possible know is 100% true for everyone. So I posted a brief rebuttal and now he's responded.

The problem is if I read his response, I might do an angry rant kind of post and turn into one of Those OPs, which I'm trying not to do. On the other hand, if I ignore a thread I started, I might never see the other responses which might actually be helpful.

How should I handle this? I don't want a guy who doesn't even believe I have an issue trying to "help me" resolve it by telling me I don't have an issue.


Link please, we can read it for you ;)


Tempting as it is, I don't want a dogpile on that thread. Also, most of the context is missing because the Twitter convo is not there.

I already had to edit out one of my early morning mini-rants, which splashed onto Greg. The rest of it is .. well, mostly civil.


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Brandie Tarvin (6/20/2013)
I need some advice, please.

One of my thread questions has a poster on it who spent all day yesterday on Twitter telling me my problem is impossible (literally, he said that). He refuses to believe I have a problem because he can't reproduce it and I can't exactly let him see my systems.

So he found the thread I posted here and has been contributing, or trying to contribute, without actually helping. I managed to ignore his first post, but his second post made an absolute judgement on something that he can't possible know is 100% true for everyone. So I posted a brief rebuttal and now he's responded.

The problem is if I read his response, I might do an angry rant kind of post and turn into one of Those OPs, which I'm trying not to do. On the other hand, if I ignore a thread I started, I might never see the other responses which might actually be helpful.

How should I handle this? I don't want a guy who doesn't even believe I have an issue trying to "help me" resolve it by telling me I don't have an issue.


I think I've been following that thread and know which posts you're talking about. In the absence of a feature that would block or hide posts from a particular person, the only suggestion I have is to just ignore those "nuh-uh!"/"yuh-huh!" posts. People who just want to argue go away pretty quickly once they realize that they can't carry on an argument by themselves. When you get the notification e-mail that says he's posted a reply to that thread, just delete it. As hard as it may be to resist that urge to engage, choosing not to will save you a lot of grief.


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...In the absence of a feature that would block or hide posts from a particular person, the only suggestion I have is to just ignore those "nuh-uh!"/"yuh-huh!" posts. People who just want to argue go away pretty quickly once they realize that they can't carry on an argument by themselves.


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...In the absence of a feature that would block or hide posts from a particular person, the only suggestion I have is to just ignore those "nuh-uh!"/"yuh-huh!" posts. People who just want to argue go away pretty quickly once they realize that they can't carry on an argument by themselves.


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...In the absence of a feature that would block or hide posts from a particular person, the only suggestion I have is to just ignore those "nuh-uh!"/"yuh-huh!" posts. People who just want to argue go away pretty quickly once they realize that they can't carry on an argument by themselves.


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...In the absence of a feature that would block or hide posts from a particular person, the only suggestion I have is to just ignore those "nuh-uh!"/"yuh-huh!" posts. People who just want to argue go away pretty quickly once they realize that they can't carry on an argument by themselves.


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