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Steve Jones - SSC Editor

Posted Thursday, June 05, 2008 9:43 PM

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jasmin.tang

Posted Friday, June 06, 2008 1:31 AM

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Steve is right. There is more in life than our career. In IT, we do our best, work overtime and endure stress. No matter how much extra effort you put in, your company can only provide limited percent of annual increment, which is not much difference from an average worker. So, what's the point of putting all your life into building your career and spending so little time with our family and letting go of our stress on my family members (sometimes when there is much stress at work).

I very much agree that there are ups and downs and I usually look for other job opportunities when it's down and I end up finding myself job hopping.

Going into a new company isn't going to solve anything as I'll feel down again and look for other opportunities. Now, I'm focusing on building up soft skills, which I think is equally important as technical skills if you want to move up the ladder, instead of job hopping, which makes it difficult move up into seniority if you keep changing jobs. Unless of course, after your have significantly improved your soft skills, you may be offered a higher position at your company or another company.

In conclusion, I think we should work averagely, without over doing it, and at the same time build on soft skills and love our family.

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Posted Friday, June 06, 2008 3:14 AM

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Desiderata

A cliche? Perhaps.

A grain of truth? Definitely.

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Posted Friday, June 06, 2008 4:03 AM

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Absolutely steve, we are caged animal now-a-days. People find us in cage (office) most of the time. My son want me to play with him. He waits in the night. One day at 11 pm he was asking do u have time to play with me now? I started thinking what I am doing, for whom I am earning if my people are not getting me or not enjoying with me or not enjoying.

I love to see my son's face at the end of the day happy but I see he looks at behind pillar curiously trying to understand whether I am exhausted or not. If I say I am damn tired he sadly walks towards his room. After seeing that I try to spend some time with him (if I am free) and also taught him how to play cricket and football alone........

So I tell my juniors enjoy your life socially also. Tell everybody work but party more hard

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John Magnabosco

Posted Friday, June 06, 2008 5:00 AM

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The grand juggling act that we must all perform is one that is not easy. One cannot exceedingly excel in anything without giving their hear and soul into it. That includes family and loved ones. It is healthy to be conflicted in regard to how we spend our time. That conflict encourages us to shift focus periodically for a more balanced life.

John Lennon said it best when he penned the line "Life is what happens when you are busy making other plans.". That song, "Beautiful Boy", was to his young son, Shawn, and his eagerness to watch him grow up. It is even more heartbreaking to know that the song was on John's last album.

There are times when our work demands do and should fall to the bottom of priorities and Chris' situation is certainly one of those. Our thoughts are with you Chris!

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Posted Friday, June 06, 2008 5:53 AM

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I have always tried my best to be thankfull for what I have. However, from time to time we all take things for granted and fall into that trap. I am 42 years old and in November I was diagnosed with Prostate cancer. In February I had surgery and after 7 weeks I was back to work and now am functioning fine and 100% cancer free ! This has been a little of a wake up call even to me. I have started looking at alot of things differently and my life and my marriage could not be any better right now. To a degree having the cancer was the best thing that could have happened to me. Isn't that strange !!!

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Posted Friday, June 06, 2008 6:33 AM

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It is funny how that sometimes it takes a crisis such as a severe illness, or death of a loved one to get us to take notice our of lives, and perhaps our mortality.

My life philosophy is that this is not a dress rehearsal for life...I don't get to go back and do everything right 'next time'. There is no next time...this is it. Don't be one of those people who at 65 years of age says, 'gee, I wish I had [fill in the blank] 20 years ago', or whenever.

You can never regain the time that has passed. You can not go back and enjoy your childrens youth once they are grown. Too late then. And we never know when our own 'end' will be, but it will probably be before we did all the things we really wanted to do.

Enjoy life now, everyday!

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Matt Miller (#4)

Posted Friday, June 06, 2008 7:10 AM

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Trader Sam (6/6/2008)

Well said. I had my scare a few years back, and I've been slowly but surely been making changes to get there.

Never mind that we've all heard these words before, perhaps it's time to actually take them to heart. Our jobs can and often are intoxicating, stressful, crazy, and....addictive. We all get hooked on that crazy pace, and being able to fly in, fix the world a little in twenty keystrokes and fly out to tilt at the next windmill. I will be the first to admit - I'm right up there with work junkies, because I get a charge out of what I do. But it's no excuse to short-change everyone around you; providing for them is wonderful, but that includes providing some of yourself to them (possibly what they want most.)

So - set limits for yourself, and stick to them. Take time away, leave the laptop at home, and just do. Anything. Just enjoy the time - you ain't getting it back (if you ARE - let me know how, we need to talk!)

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cy-dba

Posted Friday, June 06, 2008 7:53 AM

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I couldn't agree more! I recently changed jobs specifically because I wanted to be more active with my kid's sports and extracurricular activities. She'll be going to college in another few years and I didn't want to miss out! It would have been impossible had I not made the switch. No job is more important than taking an active role in your kid's lives.

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Posted Friday, June 06, 2008 8:40 AM

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