It looks like the article you linked to applies specifically to how Toad Intelligence Central works and not how SQL Server works.
As long as permissions are correct running cross-database queries against SQL Server usually does not cause a performance problem. Where you could get performance issues is if the columns you are joining on are of different data types and there have to be implicit conversions.
Jack Corbett
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